Tag Archives: drama

Honest Actions or Ulterior Motives?

16 Nov

How do I honestly come up with things to do without an ulterior motive to eventually benefit me in the end? I would like to be able to stop concocting these extravagant scores to achieve what I thing would be good for me and just live and let life and destiny take me wherever it would be. I always do this; try to take matters into my own hands. May it be impatience, determination, habit, whatever. I cannot succumb from doing this.

I can’t begin to understand why my need to control all kinds of situations in my life. I wish the process of understanding my dilemma would be already settled in my head so this entry could have a problem, explanation, and resolution with maybe a moral in the end, but so much for wishing, right?

Why do I resort to past habits that I know for a fact don’t work and only give me grief and false hope? I don’t know…because that’s what I’ve done for years, it’s my comfort zone, it’s my default setting.
How can I deprogram what I’ve been subconsciously resorting to for years and years? By doing the opposite, you may suggest, but restraining myself from living and having a life, enclosing myself within the four walls of my apartment and cutting myself out from any kind of human interaction, punishing myself…is that really the answer? Is it? Is it?

The maze that is my head is getting stronger and more intricate as time goes by. I have no roadmaps, no signs, no GPS to help me, even though I was the architect, the creator, the mastermind behind this complex labyrinth.

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The Right to Cheat

18 Oct

I had a conversation with a good guy friend of mine regarding fidelity. He expressed that for him, as long as his partner is fulfilling his needs, there’s no reason to wonder off, but that he, in fact, had been unfaithful because his wife had been “acting up for a while.” His words, not mine.
So I asked him what that meant. He replied that as a wife, her duties were to always be available physically for him, to maintain their house clean, food on the table, and to take care of their children. He couldn’t understand why she would make up excuses for when he wanted to be intimate with her. He said it had been going on for too long and since she wasn’t giving it to him at home he went out looking for it elsewhere.

In his defense, he added that he performed his duties as a husband. He gave me a laundry list of the things he would do for her like flying her out for a weekend getaway. He works so she doesn’t have to, he is a good father to their children, and he buys her whatever she needs and wants, so why wasn’t she pulling her weight? He asked me. Why would she refuse to please me when all I do is please her?

All I kept thinking about was his wife. I thought about her reasons and excuses to not perform what was expected of her. So what about these marital duties? If you’re doing your part as a husband or wife and your still chose to cheat, what about then? The indiscretion has to be forgiven or overlooked because you are doing what you’re supposed to be doing at home? Now I ask myself, am I the type of person that allows to be cheated on?

I feel is extremely important to have the answer to that question before you enter a relationship. You have to know yourself, and understand your point of view from the beginning, so when it does happen, because it will, you are ready to do what you are supposed to do. I believe all of us as human beings living on this earth will experience at some point of our lives some kind of infidelity, so why not be prepared for it when it happens.

You have two options, you can be the accepting type; the one that will overlook and/or forgive an indiscretion and work together with your partner through any fidelity issue and stay together. Or option two; you can be the one who won’t stand for any wrongdoing and leave.

My friend got me thinking about a very interesting point. Most of the females I have discussed this issue with tell me that women cheat because there’s something lacking in the relationship, which is what my male friend was telling me now. I always assumed that men cheat because they feel they can, women cheat because they are trying to fill a void from their relationship.

Maybe it’s not a black and white answer, maybe there are some gray areas, and maybe men and women are not as different. Some men could cheat because they’re missing something, and some women cheat because they too feel they can.

No matter the reason, circumstance, situation or person involved, understanding what actions to take before the indiscretion has occurred will give you a sense of security because you’re prepared. Emotions can sometimes cloud the mind and not allow you to think straight.

End of Summer = Good TV

24 Sep

This week most of the TV shows that I’m into aired their season premieres. I’m so excited! cannot wait for the new storylines and cool jokes coming this season on some sophomore shows and veteran favorites. This is the only good thing about Summer ending. The brand spanking new Fall TV schedule that keeps me glued to the magic box every night.
So I wanted to share my top favorite TV comedy and drama shows. The ones that make me laugh until my guts hurt and the ones that stress me out even though I know it’ll all work out in the end.

My fave LOL shows are:
Community – I’m going to be honest, the reason why I was attracted to this show last year is the same reason why I thought it was going to get canned after a couple of episodes. Joel McHale. I’ve had a super crush on this funny guy ever since The Soup first aired in 2004. Joel is funny, hot, sarcastic, aloof, everything that works for the kind of show that he is hosting, but could he act? that question was answered on Community’s pilot. Yes he can! Enough about Mr. McHale, the show is definitely held together by the amazing ensemble cast who includes legend Chevy Chase. I just got the DVD for the full first season and I love it even more the second time around. Love this show!

Modern Family – One word. Sofia. I’m so proud to be a latina right now because she’s amazing. I’ve known about Sofia Vergara, hot Colombian goddess, since she was Mexican Hearthrob songbird Luis Miguel’s girlfriend. Waaay back when I was a teenybopper in love with Luismi and I just didn’t like her. I thought she was just interested in being famous and couldn’t act. I honestly never really saw any of her work, I was just being a hater. Then she gets cast for this show and I figure I’ll give it a try so I can get more ammunition and hate some more. Ha! the joke was on me. I discovered this fine gem of a sitcom. I also love Ty Burrell’s character Phil and his son Max. Phil has the best lines, and Gloria has a I Love Lucy ora to her that I just can’t get enough of. Must see.

The Office – I’ve turned so many of my friends into Office fans that we have our own inside jokes, and ongoing bits about it. It’s like a cult, just go to Facebook, Twitter or any social network site to experience firsthand the massive, overwhelming love for those characters.

30 Rock – What can I say about this show? Tina and Alec, Liz and Jack. comedic geniuses. Well deserved Emmy’s on both parts.

Favorite Dramas are:
90210 – It’s started as pure nostalgia and I’m sure the producers orchestrated it that way, but it definitely caught my attention and got me into this famous zip code all over again. Long gone are the days of Kelly and Brenda fighting over Dylan. Today is likeable bitch Naomi and super annoying Annie one misunderstanding after another. Loves it!!

Project Runway – I love me some Tim Gunn and Heidi Klum! and every week feels like NYFW since I get to watch a runway show. Fun!

America’s Next Top Model (ANTM) – Let me just say this, Tyra Banks is the most annoying woman in the world. We have an ongoing joke in my house that if something is really, really bad we call it “banks” that’s how much I dislike this lady, but she can sure make good TV. I’ve watched this show since it first started and I’ve never gotten sick or tired of it. I mostly watch it for the Jays (Jay Emanuel and Ms. Jay) and for the photo shoots and panel. I can’t get enough of it, but I can definitely do without the ridiculous things that come out of Tyra’s mouth for sure.

Parenthood – This show is so real. That’s why I like it. My favorite couple are Kristina and Adam. I also like Amber, Sarah’s daughter (played by Gilmore Girl’s Lauren Graham). I don’t think I’m completely obssessed with it yet, but I can’t seem to not miss it.

Runners up:
How I Met Your Mother – I got into this show this summer watching re-runs on CBS and I really enjoy the show’s old school sitcom feeling, but with really smart and witty jokes. This show is super goofy, but at the same time feels very sophisticated.

Chopped – I love the FoodNetwork and this show is like the whole channel wrapped in a tiny box on steroids. I enjoy the competitions a lot.

For this season not a lot of freshman shows have called my attention. I will though give these two a try.

New Shows:
Running Wilde – Just because Will Arnett is on it. (hellooo?!?! Gob! Arrested Development)
Outsourced – It’s on NBC thursday nights. My favorite night of the week, what can I say? hehe